Friday, August 22, 2014
Are you in the Carpool Lane or flying solo?
“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”
So I was on my way to Santa Monica to meet up with my friend Annie for lunch yesterday. I wish I had factored in the traffic when I was planning on what time I should head to the Restaurant. With all the different options of lanes, does it ever feel like you choose the one that is not moving, while cars all around you are flying by? Then when I glanced over at the carpool lane, they were cruising the fastest with seemingly smooth travels.
I notice as we navigate the lane lines of life, the people who are ‘in community’ (the carpool lane) tend to do better as they face whatever life brings. When you are ‘doing life together’, you tend to have a smoother ride. Others are there with you if you happen to break down on the freeway…as well as if you are breaking down in your relationships. ("Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up." Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
Living in isolation is more of a struggle. You tend to feel like you have to handle all of your difficulties alone.
Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.
I do it myself!!
Just like it’s better for the environment to carpool together because less emissions are let into the atmosphere, the environment is better off overall when we are in community with like-minded people who can help carry our loads. (They make room for our baggage in their trunks :) People are healthier. Less negativity is emitted into the air around them.
I actually just stopped to look up the ‘Benefits of Carpooling’, to see if there are additional comparisons. It said when you carpool there are fewer accidents, shorter commute times, better air quality and it's a safer drive for everybody.
In life I feel you actually have fewer accidents when you are surrounded by people who hold you accountable…when you’re going off the rails (morally speaking). They speak truth into your life when you start to fall by the wayside. They can be real enough with you to warn you of upcoming dangers you might be too blind to see.
As far as the shorter commute time, it seems as if you get to your destinations quicker when you have people rallying around you and encouraging your goals and dreams.
Air quality is better and you seem to breathe easier when you have people in your life who are checking in on you asking how you’re ‘really’ doing.
And at the end of the day, you are safer with wise people in your life that can give you direction when things get a bit cloudy in your life. (“In the multitude of counselors there is wisdom.”-Proverbs 11:14)
Evaluate your social circle, and write down the people you are ‘doing life with’. If the list is short, you may consider taking the initiative and being intentional about pursuing healthy relationships with more people. Ones that you can be transparent with. (And when you carpool with them, make sure their trunk is big enough for all of your baggage...cuz chances are they got plenty of their own! ;O)